Being a leader is a life-long journey.

A journey that brings you:

– Questions you don’t know how to answer.

– Opportunities to make a difference.

– Challenges that you would pass if you could.

and most of all:

– Uncertainty.

People cope with uncertainty differently. Some avoid it as much as they can. They seek comfort in predictability. Some love it. Certainty feels for them as a stale routine.

Sometimes I meet a manager who sees it as their responsibility to reduce uncertainty as much as possible. They feel that they need to be strong for their employees and be able to give all the answers, provide all the solutions, and show no weaknesses. If that manager is a client, we’ll immediately work at that tendency.


Dr. Brene Brown, research professor at the University of Houston, says:

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change.”

And I would like to add that it is also the birthplace of leadership.

Good leaders are vulnerable and show their human side. And humans have:

– Moods, yes, even bad ones,

– Bad habits, and good ones, of course,

– Regrets (everybody makes mistakes) and

– Ups and downs in their lives.31

Your co-workers appreciate that you don’t know all the answers; that you are vulnerable. Employees won’t remember your impressive resume. But tell them about how you struggled with your teenage son or how difficult it was for you to delegate in the beginning of your career.

They will not only remember. Being vulnerable enables your employees as well to connect with you. And people need connection. More than ever, employees are seeking a deeper connection than the “thumbs up” gestures. (Though they still like those too!)

So, be vulnerable, be human, be a leader.

Coaching assignment:

Be vulnerable once today.